I’m as big a celebrity watcher as most people are and am quite fond of the statements they release when some huge event — such as marriage, divorce, pregnancy, sex change — occurs in their lives. Gwyneth Paltrow announcing the end of her 10 year marriage to Chris Martin via her blog reminded me of the time I myself had prepared a statement should me and my own boyfriend ever split.
I was in a 5 1/2 year relationship with a man I thought I’d maybe marry one day … a very small, barely audible ‘maybe‘. However, somewhere nearing year two, I had that feeling people talk about having — that nagging feeling that this man wasn’t exactly right for me. Throughout the life of that relationship that feeling only grew stronger, louder and was proven correct a number of times. Actually, the Universe did all but have the stars themselves write “GET OUT OF IT!! NOW!!” …
I ignored those proverbial ‘red flags’. I ignored my intuition. I ignored my family’s intuition. I even ignored my little boy’s ‘intuition’ which manifested itself in the form of a simple note written by him, one day, with the help of the magnetic letters on the fridge … in front of me and my now ex … that read: “I don’t like David“.
Yet, somewhere deep down where my true feelings were being held hostage, I whispered: “I don’t think I like him either” …
Fast forward to March, 2012 when Current TV severed ties with Keith Olbermann. The network released a statement. Something about their statement made me feel like this was the statement I would use when this particular ‘uncoupling’ happened.
When my ex-boyfriend broke up with me in August, 2013, I almost instantly remembered my statement, but was so devastated I could barely stand straight much less release those words into the internet. My heart was shattered. I needed to take the time to cry, reflect, heal, yada yada yada … Eventually, I got over it. My ex is a cop, but, ironically, I was the one that dodged a bullet.
Funny, how that happens.
The last 7 months have been a ferris wheel of emotional highs and lows, where my love life is concerned. Since, currently, I find myself leisurely swinging away in my little booth toward the top of this ferris wheel and because Gwyneth did it, I feel good enough to release the statement I had prepared before the official demise of my own pairing:
“My relationship with David was founded on the values of respect, openness and loyalty. Unfortunately these values are no longer reflected in our relationship and we have ended it.“